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Just 4 Today, I’ll drink my fiber supplement twice (I’ve drunk it once.), drink 2 liters of water (Drunk about 1/3 so far), walk 5 miles (I walked 3 miles yesterday), weigh myself (done), and NOT eat between meals and NOT take seconds.
I hope Thanksgiving went well for you…. What are you going to do today?
Did ok yesterday. The Weight Watcher’s strategy of having weekly points that you can “spend” for a special event, like Turkey Day, is a big psychological help.
Last week at the meeting we each had a paper plate on which we wrote all the point values for each typical T-day food and proper serving sizes. There were also recipe suggestions to take things down to reasonable point levels.
I prepared the pumpkin pies with Splenda and non-fat evaporated milk, then used the Cool Whip version with, apparently, no food value whatsoever to top my modest slice.
I did not feel deprived at all- in fact, even with quite modest servings of things, there were so many different foods that it was, indeed a feast.
One thing I didn’t have to deal with was any sort of hors doeuvres since it was at my house and nobody arrived until just before dinner time, at my request. Stay as late as you like, but don’t come early !
So, there are leftovers, of course, but I didn’t have pie for breakfast, and even if I did, it wouldn’t have been a scandal.
“So, there are leftovers, of course, but I didn’t have pie for breakfast, and even if I did, it wouldn’t have been a scandal.”
It sounds like you did great and had a good time too.
Thank you so much for stopping by to tell us about it.
(also, I love the image of the paper plate with the food values)
Ok. I have a delicate question. I can’t figure out how to create a brand new post. So I am leaving it here, even though it technically does not belong here.
Do we have a right to ask our spouses not to eat certain foods in front of us?
As we all know, dieting is really hard. Tonight, after I had my last calories for the day but was still hungry, (as is normal if you are on a few hundred calorie deficit), my husband wanted a big bag of salty microwave popcorn. I asked him not to eat it in front of me. He got upset and told me that this was too controlling. He wanted to eat it and also be around me.
I gave in and said okay. He started eating it in front of me. The smell drove me crazy so I asked if I could have a few bites, which I did. He was eating it SO slowly, over the course of about two hours. The whole entire time I was being driven crazy but did not want to be controlling by asking him to take it elsewhere. Eventually, I could not take it anymore, and I said, “your popcorn eating is driving me insane.” He said, “too bad, that’s not my problem.”
I was so upset by this (and hungry) that I went in the kitchen and ate about 400 calories worth of chocolate, so as not to feel deprived. This undid all the good things I had done during the day and rendered this day of my diet useless. (400 calories is about the amount of deficit I usually go for). Mid-chocolate binge I (thankfully) realized what was happening. I put the chocolate down and went into the bathroom and locked the door, just to stop myself from eating.
I could hear my husband continuing to eat popcorn and then start into the chocolate and I waited till he was done to come out.
I’ve talked to him about this before honestly and he says its too restricting to him to not be able to eat whatever he wants, whenever he wants, even if i am right in front of him.
Am I obligated to leave the apartment if he eats something tempting in front of me and I can’t stand it? Or is he obligated to leave the apartment (or go in another room and shut the door)?
Does anyone else have this problem? Please tell me I am not crazy.
B-s B,
My instinct was to recoil in shock, but I ran it by mister to gather my thoughts. And he was as unhappy with your husband’s behavior as me.
He reminded me that we aren’t allowed to make popcorn at work. That if people want popcorn they can bring it in already popped (here in Kansas City, Velvet Creme is popular.) But that the smell of popping corn is disruptive in the workplace.
But we’re in a pretty smell conscious work-place and stinky perfumes are frowned on as well. And people who eat a lot of garlic get talked about.
The thing about popcorn though — it’s starting to move into the area of safety, like painting nails or working on models. The EPA is Investigating the dangers of microwave popcorn fumes.
If he’s really, really fond of popcorn, Velvet Creme is great and you can order it online. And I know from experience, it doesn’t stink up the house with tempting smells. Maybe you could buy him a galleon to see if he likes it (I do…)
Good Luck!
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If you have a husband who is acting like that it seems to me the two of you really need to get some serious counseling !
If he won’t cooperate with your efforts to loose weight, I shudder to think what else he’s doing to sabotage you. He might well be the reason you have the weight problem in the first place.
By all means, go do something else while he’s being obnoxious. Go to the library, garden, visit somebody, whatever you have to do if he won’t go elsewhere with his nonsense.
Meanwhile, see what you can do to find a marriage counselor to help you deal with him.
Was he out-of-sorts that evening? Or is he often that inconsiderate?
Hmn. It varies. I can see that he makes an effort to be supportive, but then gets frustrated.
As background info, he is and always has been insanely skinny, eats whatever he wants, whenever he wants, and has no idea what it feels like to diet or feel truly hungry.
When I used to be overweight, he honestly thought I looked “cute” and doesn’t understand how bad it feels (the knee pain, the feeling of walking around with bags of water under your skin, your clothes not fitting, etc).
There are three foods that he likes that I just don’t want to have around, and they are: chips, cheddar cheese, and Ben & Jerry’s. All his other favorite junk foods, like mac n’ cheese, soda, chocolate, I can deal with.
Awhile back I asked him if we could not store my three worst temptation foods in the house. We have a 24 hour market on our block with all of these items. If he really wants one of these items, he can go down there and get it, or he can get it and eat it in the car on the way home from work, etc, rather than eating it around me. Wanting to be supportive, he agreed to this for these three items.
But every so often he lashes out and says he really wants a constant supply of chips IN the house and that it is controlling of me to have asked him to not have them around.
Last night I talked to him and told him there must be a better alternative and he said: “liposuction!”
The thing that gets me the most, is if I say, “Please don’t eat that in front of me,” he says things like “big deal, why don’t you have some, its just 100 extra calories – you’re not even fat! You look really beautiful!”
Yes, he’s right, I am no longer fat. But I do have five more pounds to go before I reach my goal. To him, 100 calories means nothing, but to me, it means one fifth of one extra day on my diet, which means 4.8 extra hours of hunger. That one hundred calories also means messing up the maintenance I will have to do once it is over.
On some ocassions he is supportive, and on others he isn’t. I want to believe that it comes from his ignorance of what it feels like to diet rather than him trying to sabotage me, but of course, anyone in my situation would want to believe that.
Bombshell
PS Katie – now that I’m out of the closet and posting like a blog-fiend, I hardly think that the things I’m posting about qualify as “articles.” I guess I should just post in whatever category my posts relate to? Perhaps there could be more categories? Not sure.